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Regina Thomashauer
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Things to explore on your own.
In a hurried world, here are some intentional practices in slowing down.
Practices
Meeting the light
When you first wake up, before anything else, go outside to meet the light. Close your eyes, feel your feet on the ground, and listen to the morning sounds.
Every day, 3 minutes
Eating with presence
Try to eat your meals out of reach and out of earshot of your phone. Bring mindfulness to chewing slowly, appreciating the flavors in your mouth, and feeling your body be nourished by food (and your presence).
Intuitive movement
Put on one or two of your favorite songs to dance. Choose a time of the day that works with your schedule so it feels spacious. The songs can be slow and sensual or faster and good for moving energy. Allow yourself a moment at the beginning to see what and how your body is feeling to determine the music. Create a playlist for this practice. Take a few breaths and then begin. Listen to how your body wants to be moved, and if it helps to close your eyes at first, I encourage you to try this. Allow yourself permission to be here now. Allow yourself to move what is inside you, however that may look. Notice if there is pleasure, numbness, sadness, anger, or other. Remember that all are welcome. Let this be a short devotional practice to your body and its innate wisdom.
1-2 times a week to every day
Being held
At the end of the day, or when you have a spacious moment in the day, lay down flat on the floor, bed, or sofa. Feel your awareness come to the space. Feel your body being held by the floor or other. Notice sensations in the body as you lay there. What feels good, and maybe not so good. Become present to the sounds, smells, and what you might be feeling. Notice any emotions. Notice where you might come and go and do your best to treat them like passing clouds. Try to stay in the moment of being held by the earth, floor, or bed for a little longer than you might stay. Notice when you feel boredom or discomfort. Be with that too, again not indulging it too much.
10-15 minutes, more if you like
From the bookshelf
Books to return to.
A curated collection for deeper relationship with the body, intimacy, creativity, and the living world.
Reading collection
Feminine Empowerment Books
On our knees: Loving your life even when you hate what's happening
Regina Thomashauer
Call of the Wild: How we heal trauma, Awaken our own power and use it for good
Kimberly Ann Johnson
Do Less
Kate Northrup
F*ck Like a Goddess
Alexandra Roxo
Radical Self Love
Tara Brach
A Woman’s worth
Marianne Williamson
The Ethical Slut
Janet W Hardy
Reading collection
Relational Books
Mating In captivity
Ester Perel
The Multi orgasmic Couple
Mantak Chia & Maneewan Chia & Abrams
Relationship Agreements
Eri Kardos
Tuned in and turned on
Stefanos Sifandos
Fierce Intimacy: Standing up to one another with love
Terry Real
Conscious loving
Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks
Liberated love: release codependent patterns and create the love you desire
Mark Groves & Kylie McBeath
The seven principles for making marriage work
John Gottman & Nan Silver
Opening up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships
Tristan Taormino
Polysecure: Attachment, trauma and consensual non-monogamy
Jessica Fern
The monster under the bed: Sex, Depression and the conversations we aren’t having
JoEllen Notte
Reading collection
Archetypal Work Books
Women Who Run with the Wolves
Clarrisa Pinkola Estes
Reading collection
Women’s Anatomy Books
Women’s bodies, women’s wisdom
Christiane Northrup
Come As you are
Emily Nagoski
Women’s anatomy of arousal
Sheri Winston
Reading collection
Sexuality, The Natural world & Activism Books
World as lover, world as self
Joanna Macy
The body is not an apology: the power of radical self-love
Sonya Renee Taylor
Pleasure Activism: The politics of feeling good
Adrienne Maree Brown
Love’s not color blind
Kevin A Patterson
Reading collection
Emotions, health & Ancestry Books
When the body says No
Gabor Maté
Atlas of the Heart
Brene Brown
My Grandmothers hands
Resmaa Menakem
Reading collection
Kink/BDSM Books
Existential Kink: Unmask Your shadow and embrace your power
Carolyn Elliott, PhD
Cleo Dubois
Tongue Tied: Untangling communication in sex, kink and relationships
Stella Harris
Reading collection
Tantra Books
Tantra: The art of conscious loving
Charles & Caroline Muir
Tantra: The path of ecstasy
Georg Fuerstein
Tao Tantric Arts for Women: Cultivating sexual energy, love and spirit
Minke de Vos
Reading collection
Grief Books
The Wild Edges of Sorrow: Rituals of renewal and the sacred work of Grief
Francis Weller
The Smell of Rain on Dust
Martin Prechtel
Sex after grief: Navigating your sexuality after losing your beloved
Joan Price
Reading collection
Postpartum Health & Mothering Books
The Fourth Trimester
Kimberly Ann Johnson
Mothering from your center
Tammy Lynn Kent
The gifts of imperfection
Brene Brown
When Things fall apart
Pema Chodron
The good mother myth
Nancy Reddy
The gifts of imperfection
Brene Brown
Reading collection
Creativity/Cultivating Sexual life force Books
The Artist’s way
Julia Cameron
The Creative Act: A way of being
Rick Rubin
Big Magic
Elizabeth Gilbert
The war of art
Steven Pressfield
Reading collection
Sex & Spirituality Books
The Radiance Sutras
Lorin Roche, PhD
How we live is how we die
Pema Chodron
Websites & studies
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